FAQ
Most frequent questions and answers
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is designed to guide you and your partner to rekindle emotional bonds, fostering a connection that transcends the everyday. It provides a safe space for open, honest dialogue, breaks down communication barriers, and helps you express your deepest feelings. EFT also helps navigate past hurts, build trust, and create a secure emotional foundation that allows your relationship to flourish.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a therapeutic approach primarily used in couples therapy but also applied in individual therapy. Developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, EFT is rooted in attachment theory, which suggests that humans have an innate need for close emotional bonds with others.
EFT focuses on the emotional experiences of individuals and how these emotions influence their interactions and relationships. The therapy aims to create a secure emotional bond between partners by helping them understand and express their emotions more effectively.
Key principles of EFT include:
Identifying patterns: EFT helps couples recognize negative patterns of interaction, such as withdrawal or criticism, that lead to conflict or distance.
Emotional awareness: Clients learn to identify and articulate their emotions and underlying needs, as well as recognize their partner’s emotions.
Restructuring interactions: Therapists guide couples in restructuring their interactions to create more secure emotional connections. This may involve expressing needs more clearly, offering support, and responding to each other with empathy.
Creating secure attachment: EFT aims to create a secure attachment bond between partners, characterized by trust, emotional openness, and mutual support.
Overall, EFT seeks to promote emotional intimacy and connection within relationships by helping partners understand and respond to each other’s emotional needs more effectively.
The duration of couple therapy can vary greatly depending on the specific issues being addressed, the willingness of both partners to engage in the process, the skills of the therapist, and other factors. Some couples may see improvement in just a few sessions, while others may require several months or even years of therapy to achieve their goals.
In general, short-term couple therapy may last anywhere from a few weeks to a few months. It focuses on specific issues and provides tools for communication and problem-solving. Longer-term therapy may be necessary for deeper-rooted issues or if there are significant emotional wounds to heal.
Ultimately, the effectiveness of couple therapy depends on the dedication and effort both partners are willing to put into the process and on the compatibility between the couple and the therapist.
You can find the “about me” page by following the link https://coupletherapy.earth/about-me/.
As a couple therapist, I specialize in emotional-focused therapy (EFT) with a unique twist.
My holistic approach is centred around resolving conflicts and infusing joy, passion, and connection into relationships.
Research has shown that EFT is the most effective form of couples therapy, and I am dedicated to utilizing this approach to help my clients achieve lasting positive change.
You can use the contact form above if you prefer written emails, the live chat on the right if you want the fastest response or the talk to me on the left if you prefer Audio or video replies.
You can also book a free consultation if you are considering working with me.
Yes, you can book a free call to determine if we are a good fit to work together. Find a suitable time here https://calendly.com/thomaswestenholz/call
The sessions take place in the Brighton Office, which is:
The Practise Room, 57 Ship St, Brighton and Hove, Brighton BN1 1AF
Or in the Hove office, which is:
The Practise Room, 160-162 Church Rd, Brighton and Hove, Hove BN3 2DL
If you booked an online session, then it will take place on this link:
https://whereby.com/thomascalls
You can set up payment for regular sessions here https://pay.gocardless.com/BRT00034010CW0J or you can do a bank transfer before the session.
If you are booking a one-off session then you can pay and book a time here https://calendly.com/thomaswestenholz/book-a-session
The hourly rate is £125, and I recommend a weekly session to see faster progress.
The rate is based on my results that tend to be faster and more long-lasting than other couple therapy methods, so you will likely save money compared to cheaper couple therapists and see better, longer-lasting results.
See my Google reviews to learn more.
Research has shown that our close relationships have the most significant impact on our lifelong happiness and well-being. So, it’s a small investment compared to what we spend on cars, holidays, mobile phones, and tech items, and the impact on your quality of life is very likely far greater.
And if you don’t like it you can get a refund after the first session.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is designed for couples. If you are single, we recommend exploring individual therapy options which is something I can offer too. Schedule a free call here https://calendly.com/thomaswestenholz/call
The Spot, Calm & Connect (SCC) Method is my unique relational approach that helps you understand and respond to both your partner’s behaviours and emotions. By spotting patterns, calming the nervous system, and reconnecting, you can achieve lasting results in your relationship.
Yes, you can access Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy from outside the country. Our services are available internationally.
Yes, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy can help couples navigate and heal from infidelity issues. It provides a safe space for open communication and rebuilding trust.
Yes, I only work with adult couples.
We do not offer discounts, however if you are on low income or you struggle financially we can discuss alternative solutions. You can contact us at [email protected] to explain your circumstances, and I will reply with options.
Office hours are Tuesday to Thursday, 9 am – 5 pm and Friday, 9 am – 2 pm.
Outside office hours, you can contact me by email at [email protected] or use this online chat.
I offer a couple of sessions from Tuesdays to Sundays, and this can be arranged by scheduling the free assessment call, which you can do here: https://calendly.com/d/dh8-dpc-ff4
You can cancel a couple therapy session with minimum 48 hours notice.
Refunds are not provided, but a new time can be scheduled with a minimum of 48 hours’ notice.
Sessions can’t be rescheduled regularly, and it’s vital that you commit to the regular process to see improvement.
If you notify us less than 48 hours before your session, we are unlikely to be able to move it, and you will still be charged.
Please email us at [email protected] to reschedule your session.
Once a session is booked, paid, and confirmed, refunds are not available. However, you can reschedule the session for a later time as long as you give us a minimum of 48 hours’ notice.
You first need to schedule a free consultation call, which you can do here: https://coupletherapy.youcanbook.me/
Yes, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is available for all couples, regardless of sexual orientation.
Couple therapy sessions are available Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and on some Saturdays or Sundays, depending on availability.
I offer evening sessions on Tuesdays and Wednesdays.
Once you have attended the free consultation, which you can book here https://calendly.com/d/dh8-dpc-ff4 then we can book in your regular sessions.
If you want a one-off session, then you can book that here https://calendly.com/thomaswestenholz/book-a-session
If you booked your session online, you would have received a confirmation email from Calendly, so please check your email and spam folder, which contains all the details.
You will receive email and text reminders if you provide your mobile number.
For sessions booked directly with Thomas, you would have received a confirmation email, and it would also say in the contract you signed when your slot is.
After you paid you have a month to use the session. If you do not use the session within a month after payment it will be lost and no refund will be provided. In exceptional circumstances I will extend this time limit.
You can do this on the home page. Just scroll to the bottom of the page to see the form. Or use this link https://coupletherapy.youcanbook.me/